The work place politics is one hell of a dramatic arena that if you do not have a firm grip on your emotions and using your intelligence well, you will keep jumping from one job to the other trying to avoid certain group of people. The sad part is that, every work place you go to has its own issues and varieties of people with different wacko work attitudes .
Rather than running away from people who annoy you or cheat you at work place, you win by having control on your emotions and using your brains tactically. At our work place, there must be those who love your person, what you do and there are those who just hate you with passion for no reason or for the reason that you are better than them at work.
Boy..y..y….there are offices where all the employees are after is just to run each other down rather than focusing on how to add value to the company. Let me point out here that the employers make the situation worse because it is their primary duty to observe this crude acts by their employees and fire those workers whose idea of working is witch hunting/bad mouthing.
Sadly in Nigeria employers pay workers who come to work producing nothing rather than mere gossip at the end of the month. As an employer, part of using your own emotional intelligence will be to fish out employees who are not productive and adding value to your company and giving them the boot straight. The fact that people focus so much on lazying about hating co-workers rather than focusing on improving their work skills and adding value makes workers feel it is the in-thing to do at work place. If as an employer i hire you and do not get good results at a certain stage, i fire you, most workers will not have a space in their lousy brains to focus on work place gossip.
If you find yourself working with office haters and gossips, this could be very annoying and fraustrating and this is where controlling your emotions and also using your intelligence comes in. If you just allow your self to be getting angry and worked up every day by others, you are promoting such idiotic attitudes and giving them too much credit to continue being silly. First thing is to identify those co-workers who enjoy spoiling your runs and trying to push you out of job. Never explode in their face or else you have given them chocolate +vanilla ice cream to lick and they will so much continue to hunt you till you melt in their mouth.
Listen, this is not about being nice to such people…snap out of this manipulating messages people give us when we encounter evil minded people. Hey, some people are just made and wired to be evil and no matter how nice you are to them, they will just be who they are…..evil!! My caution here will be to also use your intelligence to know if the ones you are dealing with can respond to you being nice. Use your intelligence wisely, put some test across to such people and see their response. If they do not change for good, hit them hard….pretty hard…do not even get sloppy here or else such people will not just run you out of your dream job, they will render you totally useless..that is, if you survive their bullets.
Hey folks, as a life coach and lifestyle writer for up to 10 years now, i do not write to make people hide from realities and push them into sympathy mood. I coach and write to open the inner and psychological antennas of my fellow human beings so you can enjoy life better and be a better human being. As i write this, there are readers who fall under this category of office haters/gossips and this gist could be a turning point for them to have a change of attitude. There are also readers who must have encountered or presently encountering such people at their work place or must have even been ruined by such acts of wickedness, and secretly looking for an escape on how to avoid or get along with such people.
Most people who follow my various publications in the midst of appreciating my boldness and bluntness still feel i am pretty hard and tough to deal with. I once asked one of such people who feel i should turn into a butter/bread writer how he wants me (they are mostly men…i write a lot about women but i find it pretty amazing how the men enjoy and follow my stuff more….)to address issues. This gentleman said….’’be a little mild…’’ i said….oohhkkkk..you mean ..’’subtle…kind…?’’ he laughed and said…..Girl…you are just a handful huh?….but i still admire your courage all the same.
Let me say a little about who i am when it comes to my writings….when i write, i am in a different planet and the inspiration just flows out of me…i do not jot stuff down on paper and then type. Once i have my topic…i type straight on and this is why you can never get a duplicate of what i write anywhere because my stuff are all from my inside and only me can explain/defend them. The best part is that all i write are all i see happening in the society and world i live in and i see no reason why i should sweep them under the carpet or whitewash stuff so that readers can like me. I am not that kind of writer/person. If you want to be reading my stuff, be ready to face me with boldness and brave heart.
So when i say confront people who make life miserable for you at your work place with toughness, i mean it! Some of these people are not thinking healthy for you so why should you? If your plans are all about ruining my life, why on earth must i know about this and still allow you to achieve your aim? Does this make sense? This is not using my intelligence well? Your emotional intelligence has already given you the red flag and the best way to react is, be calm and deal with your suspect as he/she desired. You are confronted with a killer and you want to go into the battle field empty handed hoping your killer will spare you? You are simply being stupid!!
This talk will be continued next week. If you want to be part of a seminar in Abuja focusing on this topic where there will be prolific and talented speakers on how to use your EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE at work place? Send me a detailed mail with your profile – voiceofworkingwomen@outlook.com
JACLYN IWU
