It is very heartwarming meeting men who dedicate time to ensure that the woman in their life does something meaningful/Fulfilling with their life apart from house chores. Any woman who is a woman must never miss the point that, no matter what she chose to be in life, attending to house duties are compulsory. Most of us understand this pretty well and i always make sure the women i coach career wise, do not miss this vital aspect of their life. No matter how successful you are as a woman, that success must start from home meaning, that your home front must be well taken care of.
God also was so kind the way HE wired women , making it possible for them to multi-task….oh yea, women are very wonderful creatures that they can do multi jobs and get away with them successfully.. so most times when i hear people refer to us as ‘’the weaker sex’’ i wonder where they get this slang. Who-the –hell- coined this slang by the way? It does not match with the women of our generation because when we talk of strenght, we are not looking at the physical strenght alone but most importantly, the inner strength. Men have more Physical strength than women…no doubt about this but real strenght that carries both males and women in the travails of life comes from the inside. African Men who believe in this idealogy of women being the weaker sex hold on to this idea making most men not to really take time out to discover that women have so much to offer to the world outside house chores and making babies.
Recently, i have been meeting with very interesting and vibrant men who are getting away from this idea of –‘ my woman must not do anything else outside the home duties’ and i really-really love and appreciate them! Absolutely, i do!
I met this wonderful men during one of my Business Coaching Seminar/forum on –‘Women start-up small business empowerment’. This meeting caters for housewives, single ladies, career women as well who want to unveil their talents and skills and turn them into a job routine. When you hear people talk about passion for what you do, this cannot happen if that thing you do is not your God Given Talents/Skills. Most people who work out of passion always tally their work routine alongside what they enjoy doing ordinarily and later turned it into a work activity that generates money.
There are lots of working women in jobs they do not enjoy and all they do is report to work unhappily and at the end of the month, wait for their pay cheque. No matter the amount of money they get from such jobs, they are hardly content and happy. Infact, all they dream about is finding a way to get the heck out of that job position and have no time to think of improving their lives,image of the company and living a trade mark. Such women can only have job satisfaction if they channel their energy into what their talents and skills are.
There are this other group of women who are jobless and rumbling in the inside with numerous talents and skills but have no one to help them focus on what to do. Those of them married will be quick to tell you that their husbands does not like to hear about them working or pursuing a career. Please my dear men, having a woman as a life partner is not just about cooking, cleaning your house and giving you children, add some value to the life of the woman you call your second half. Empower her to use her talents to also add value to the world. There are lots of creative, intelligent women everywhere in Africa but the old African culture is still dragging such women to the mud. This should not happen at this age we are in because these women can make lots and lots of difference in this world we are in . Ask your woman what she loves to do aprt from being a house wife if given the opportunity. Believe me, this is one question every woman would love to answer with a huge heart/appreciation of having you as a husband. You will be suprised to notice that all along, you have been living with a genuis by the time you discover how intelligent your wife is. Would you not be proud to have married a woman who have something to offer to the world? Would you not be proud to have a wife that can think and solve problems positively for people in her community? This kind of empowering attitude is what makes you the BOSS of the family…being incharge and running affairs, making sure your wife counts. Have you not heard some men boast of their wife’s skills and talents? You can also be among such men if you take time out to empower your own wife.
In my just concluded business/career seminar in Abuja, most of the ladies were registered by their husbands and it was really impressive. These women all their lives have been confiding themselves to house chores only so, they were excited and at the same time grateful to their husbands for supporting them. It will suprise you that these women are also very educated women who have so much knowledge about life and world events so it was an eye opener for me as well unraveling all their hidden knowledge. All these were made possible by men who understand that women ‘have brains’ too. Our next seminar will be in 1st week of May and registeration is currently going on.
Finally, i would also appeal to our women to be subtle and respectful when they want to approach their men concerning helping them start their own small business. You do not have to shout at your husband or quarrel with him to help you learn how to start your own business. Most times, women infuriate their husbands due to their approach of presenting a good talk. Ofcourse we know there are very difficult men out there, no matter how subtle a woman is, no suggestion from the woman counts so, i also appeal to our men to be patient with our women and hear them out. In life anything can happen and you see your source of income dwindle or even vanishes and yoour wife’s income from the business you opened for her will be the saviour till you rise up again financially. So do not think that your wife having her own business is over powering you as a man but see it as saving for the rainy day and also making the woman in your life achieving her life dreams as well.
JACLYN IWU
