Growing together is a beautiful concept—until life starts pulling you in different directions. Personal development often creates a gap in a friendship or romantic relationship. And when that gap is not closed intentionally, disconnection sets in.
How to Grow Together
1. Don’t Gatekeep Growth
If you find a great podcast, course, or idea that changed your perspective, share it. Invite your partner or friend into the conversation.
2. Apply for Opportunities Together
Growth is more fulfilling when done in partnership. Sign up for events or trainings together. Build memories and mindsets side by side.
3. Share What You’re Learning
Normalise chatting about your recent insights. Make personal growth a shared lifestyle, not an individual pursuit.
4. Set Collective Goals
Sit down and draft joint goals—financial, spiritual, emotional, or professional. It keeps you on the same track.
But What If They Don’t Want to Grow?
Growth is exciting, but not everyone is ready for it. Feeling yourself evolving while the people closest to you remain stagnant can be disheartening.
Ask yourself:
• Do we share the same values?
• Is this relationship still life-giving?
• Are we on the same page about our future?
If it’s a friendship:
• Keep the door open, but set boundaries.
• Don’t force growth. Model it.
• Reevaluate their place in your life: close friend, casual friend, or acquaintance?
If it’s a marriage:
• Keep inviting your partner into your world.
• Use wisdom in approach: avoid criticism or pride.
• Seek support—mentors, counsellors, or group resources.
Sometimes, the best way to inspire someone is to keep growing anyway. Be gentle, patient, and prayerful, but also stay true to your journey.
