Are there more independent women at the top?

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Career climb is an uphill task with any woman in a marriage setting. The women, who manage to attain their career goals, must have had understanding, supportive and confident husbands. Many independent women have no shackles that limit their strides. Also, many men are late bloomers. Another angle to look at it is this, sex still sells, and many women who are married are considered by some men who would have assisted them as of no sexual benefit. They therefore believe that the assistance they would extend to them will be ‘wasted’.

Culturally, certain men still come from the valley of male dominance. So any sparks of ambition from their spouses, that would make them “look like” (because it’s not true) they are not the head of the home is vehemently resisted. Many men are dependent on their wives to manage the home, and that means if she has to pursue her ambitions, one thing may have to give way. However, in most cases, it’s not the man’s choice. Many of the men who believe women don’t deserve to be in places of authority, are the same one who don’t want to spend so much on training the girl child. Such men, with the collaboration of the kinds of women they marry, think being married to a man is the ultimate goal of a woman.

Finally, many men believe money is power. They therefore begin to think that when a woman has it, she will take your power as the man from you. There is also the issue of child bearing. Many independent women either did not have kids early, or did but parted ways with their partner before facing their careers head-on. This may either be a hostile parting or amicable one but, whichever happens, can be a major factor in the career climb of any woman.

Another angle to look at it is pregnancy. To be pregnant may not be the issue an independent woman needs to deal with but if she is married, and she has not had a child in the maritial space she is in, it can mess up her productivity. Midweek services, night vigils, prayer meetings, special Holy Ghost services and more, just to fulfil marital pressures of having a baby is also involved. Especially when she has started “running out of eggs”… as the in-laws will remind the son regularly. Some women actually prefer partners who don’t have either parent. They prefer them dead. That way, no in-law hassles. All that said, the X factor is actually the man. The man is the one who either supports his wife to succeed like the independent woman, by giving her all the encouragement needed, just as the independent ladies get.

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