Many persons believe the world is fast spoiling or getting ruined. They point to homes as the attack point to destroy the world. In this, they think marriages are under devilish focus. What are the signs? Disrespect, indiscipline, selfishness, extreme materialism, etc. These add up to break down relationships. The biggest victim is family, which is the epicenter of relationship.
Divorce is the most glaring evidence of this. Marriages these days break down, so as soon and fast as it started. Murder is now rampant in homes where wife kills husband and vice versa. Many seek freedom from each other in marriage and the easiest way out is to eliminate the other.
Many now seek prosperity (wealth) and pretend its marriage they seek. News of ladies in some countries calling off marriage plans after discovering the man signed all his property to his mother. This thus shows that its property they were coming to marry, not the man or woman.
This brings us to one question: How do you build a good family? To first fall in love, get married, and then build a family? Or first seek out a partner that would be compatible to your lifestyle, marry, build family, and then build love?
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One man answered this question on August 24, 2025, in Port Harcourt, when he celebrated his 25 years in blissful marriage. His name is Sylvester Kemjika, who shone brightly with his heartthrob, Beatrice Okenu Kemjika, at the Altars of the ‘Divine Calling Gospel Ministry’ in Borokiri.
The ceremonies and speeches and interactions showed everything one can glean from strong family unity, rapport between a couple, sincerity, integrity, and above all tenacity. Those who look for love miss it, but those who build the above virtues end up building love, true love.
Speaking to newsmen later, Kemjika, first son of the great Kemjika family in Umuohie Okpala in Ngor-Okpala LGA of Imo State, but who resides in Port Harcourt, his maternal town, revealed what most clerics don’t tell young people wishing to copulate into marriage. “They have not told them that love doesn’t grow into marriage, rather marriage grows into love.”
Mkemjika, also a pastor, revealed that most people didn’t understand the concept of marriage before going into it. They may not have learnt that the more the merrier. He is telling this to a world of individualism, a world of selfishness where even couples hang on their android phones to seek joy from persons afar but not from the one next to them.
